A number of years ago, when I was leading a group of about 150 employees, I used to have “Lunch With Jeff” for all the employees that had a birthday in the current month. I would have one gathering for 1st shift and a second gathering at the switchover between 2nd and 3rd shift.
A typical get-together would include some pizza or subs served in a conference room. Generally speaking, these were pretty well attended affairs. Who doesn’t like free food? My primary purposes were to: 1. Wish them happy birthday (always good to survive another year, right?), 2. Thank them for the effort they were putting forth, 3. Give them a chance to get to know me better and me them, 4. Let them ask me pretty much anything, with the caveat that there were some things I either did not know or could not answer.
I recall, in particular, one of these lunches that occurred during the run-up to a presidential election. Living in Iowa at the time, the Iowa Caucuses were on nearly everyone’s radar. During the course of conversation, one of the youngest in the group (guessing early 20’s) indicated that he wanted to go into politics and get elected (we nicknamed him The Senator from that day forward). Being extremely skeptical of nearly all politicians I asked him why he wanted to do that. He replied, “For the power; just like you are in management for the power.”
I looked at him and smiled what I hope was a gentle smile and informed him that I really had no power at all. Sure, I could hire and fire. However, I did the latter only out of necessity. Beyond that, I explained that the power belonged to each of them. If they weren’t buying what I was selling, it would show in the business’ results and I would be out on my ear in short order. If they were buying into my vision, then they could make the company as good as they possibly could. There was a short period of silence followed by a new topic of conversation.
John Maxwell tells us in his book “The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership” that the true measure of leadership is influence – nothing more, nothing less. The ability to influence is preceded necessarily by a relationship. No influence occurs until there is a relationship created first. That is true for a business, a family unit, the acceptance of a faith….any influence.
Since this is a business blog: If you own or manage a business/business segment, invest the time in your team to get to know them and allow them to know you. In doing so, the relationships you develop will allow you to influence your team so you can lead them to new heights.